My Marriage Lasted For Less Than A Month – Princess

Comedienne Princess Damilola has opened up once
again about her failed marriage, telling Punch that her
marriage lasted less than a month and she fell ill and
had to be hospitalized after her husband left her.
Excerpts from the interview below…
You didn’t say what was wrong with you that you
had to be hospitalized?
But you already know. We thank the Lord. The
most important thing is that I am alive and better.
I appreciate life more. But this one you are asking,
e no reach make I sick? After my husband left after
our wedding, was it not enough reason for me to
be sick? Ah! The Lord is our strength.
Why are you making fun of this?
Ah! I am telling you the truth o. The truth is that
we all have challenges in our lives. I have always
believed that the challenge is not the issue but
how you get up and get over it. I was very down
last year. It was my low moment. But with the help
of God and the support of my family and friends, I
am here now. I am happy.
Are you no longer depressed?
I was never depressed. I reacted like every normal
human being would react if she embarks on a
lifetime journey and it doesn’t go as she planned
it. But God has a reason for everything.
Are there times you wish you weren’t a celebrity
especially when you are linked with controversies?
The only time I felt bad about my fame was when
my marriage ended. I felt if I weren’t this popular;
people wouldn’t have talked about it. So many
marriages crash on a daily basis but you will not
hear about them. Some people have been married
five times but you will not hear their gist because
they are not in the eye of the public. People didn’t
know that the marriage had broken up until
December when I felt I was strong enough to
handle the publicity that it generated.
Were you shocked with the kind of publicity it
generated?
I was shocked! People called me from all parts of
the world including China. Some people cried while
some people felt happy. Some guys said they were
happy my marriage ended. Some said they were
not happy that I even married the guy. Some said I
looked older than him. Some said my marriage
shouldn’t have ended just like that. People talked
and talked. But the only time you know your
marriage is successful is when you live with your
partner and God calls one of you home. Marriage
of 30 years can still break up. It is a bad thing for
a marriage to breakup. So you can imagine the
unhappiness the parties involved would be going
through. Nobody is happy when his/her marriage
ends. Some people see me outside and ask, ‘your
marriage has ended, how do you feel?’ I will
answer them that I am jumping up or how else do
they expect me to feel? Nonsense! A comedian
once said that ‘complete’ and ‘finish’ appear to
have the same meaning but they are not the same.
If you marry the right person, you are complete
but if you marry the wrong person, you are
finished.
Were you in love with him in the first place?
I got married to somebody who I was in love with.
At that time, he also said he loved me.
Unfortunately, the marriage ended too soon.
Why?
It was due to irreconcilable differences. It is not a
thing of joy. I don’t think we should celebrate
sadness and bad news. We should be more
sensitive. No marriage should end but
peradventure it does, don’t make a mockery of that
person. You are not even mocking the person, you
are mocking God.
Are you giving it another shot?
No! Me ke? Let us struggle first and make some
money. In any case, I think I should marry a
Chinese or an Indian. If many people agree that I
should marry a Chinese, then I will go ahead. But
a Japanese might be better. Japanese products
are strong and reliable.
Is your ex-husband still your friend?
I don’t think you should call him my ‘ex-husband’
because we were together for less than one month.
An ex- husband is somebody you marry and after
three years or more, you separate. Anyway, I don’t
know where he is. We have moved on.
Are you happy?
I am happier now and I am better. I was happy
before, the only thing that got me sad was that the
marriage ended. I did one wedding and it didn’t go
well and I am alive. I should thank God. A lot of
people lose their spouses just after a week of
marriage. As long as you are alive, have hope. If
God says I should marry again, I will follow His
will. I have made my own attempt, let God make
His own. I am sure he (ex-husband) is okay
anywhere he is anyway.
Wasn’t the break-up your fault?
No. it wasn’t my fault. I can’t really say it was his
fault too. It was just irreconcilable differences. We
met and we were in love and we quickly got
married. Maybe we got married too quickly but I
have seen people who got married a month after
they met and the marriage lasted. Our own didn’t
work out. There is no need to apportion blame.
Do you still believe in love?
I have always believed in fairy tales and a knight
in shining armour but my marriage didn’t go that
way unfortunately.
There is usually a stigma associated with women
who are divorced, doesn’t that bother you?
Stigma ke? That was before. Men can afford to
have 20 children from different women. If your wife
is abusing you and you cannot take it, my brother,
please take a walk. If your husband is abusing
you, take a walk. If it is like my own case that both
of you cannot agree, you also need to take a walk
before somebody wounds the other person. Death
is final. So it is better to take off before it
degenerates into death. I know somebody that
separated from his wife and years later, he came
back and begged her and they are back together.
He, who fights and runs away lives to fight
another day. Don’t die there.
So what if your husband comes back?
No o. But like I said; he, who fights and runs
away, lives to fight another day.